"Good communication" is the most common answer I get when I ask people what makes for a healthy relationship. Yet I wonder how truly skillful we are about it. Sometimes in a workshop I will throw out an argumentative statement and ask someone to respond back or I will describe a provocative scenario and ask someone to relay the news back to me. Most of the time people in the workshops get tongue-tied. Often they relate that at home and in other situations they bottle things up rather than talk about them openly, repeat themselves or get louder when others don't "get them" or become frustrated and respond with anger. So we realize the importance of good communication but don't necessarily know how to practice it.